If you are in danger, call 9-1-1
Before you leave – things to consider:
- Take evidence of the abuse – pictures, texts, and emails.
- Journal any incidents of abuse – dates, what happened, threats, etc., and be sure to keep the journal in a private and safe location.
- Tell those close to you about what is going on.
- If you face a violent incident, go to the doctor so that there is documentation of the event.
- Contact a local organization to find resources. (Independence House 508.771.6507).
- Save money and put in multiple safe hiding locations.
- If you have children – create a safe word and find a safe location for them to go if there is a violent event. Teach the child to dial 9-1-1.
- Create an escape plan, a safe place for you and your children to go.
- If there is a violent event, avoid areas in the home that have limited access to escape, such as the bathroom. Avoid areas with easy access to weapons, such as the kitchen.
- Change privacy settings on social media accounts (see below Social Network Safety).
- Make a list of emergency contact numbers.
Important items to have ready:
- License or form of ID/social security cards
- Birth certificates
- Spare car or house keys
- School records
- Medical records
- Cell phone
- Cell phone chargers
- Bank account information
- Copy of legal papers (restraining order, divorce documents, custody papers, marriage license, etc.)
- Important sentimental items for you or your children (such as a teddy bear or blanket)
- Emergency phone numbers
After you leave – things to consider:
- Change your locks
- Change your phone number
- Block any phone numbers that your abuser has access to
- Notify your employer
- Avoid your normal areas/frequent spots
- Alert your children’s school
- Keep a copy of your restraining order on you always
- Reschedule appointments that your abuser is aware of.
- Alert your neighbors and those close to you so that they can call the police if they feel you may be in danger.
Social Network Safety
- Only post what you want the public to see. Once something is posted, it stays on the internet forever.
- Protect your personal information including your cell phone number, address, birthday, school, check-in, etc.
- Be aware of your location settings and check-in locations, they are easy to find and track.
- Avoid posting private details.
- Utilize the block setting – adjust your privacy settings.
*some information sourced from LoveIsRespect.org