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Relationship Red Flags




Often when talking to people about their abusive relationship, we hear things like, “it wasn’t like this when we first started dating,”  “we were friends first and [this person] never treated me this way before we got together,” or “everything was great at first, like it was almost too good to be true.”  Trust me, WE HEAR YOU.  If your partner had verbally or physically assaulted you the first time you hung out, you probably wouldn’t have met up with them again.  Abuse is something that happens gradually, over time, and often increases in severity.  We’ve made a list of some of the subtle signs that your partner may become more abusive over time.  Some of these things seem harmless enough on their own, or something that you might be able to tolerate initially, but they’re often a sign of more serious abuse later on in the relationship.  Here’s a list of some “red flags” to consider in your current or future relationship with your partner.

If you’re noticing that your partner has a lot of these behaviors, it might be worth thinking about if this is the safest and healthiest relationship for you.